Talk with your child about positive relationships

Conversations About Goals

• I want to have a better relationship with you.

• Let’s spend more time having fun together.

• If we have more fun, we will get along better. When we get along, it will be easier to get things done. Maybe I won’t feel frustrated as much. Maybe you won’t feel frustrated with me

Conversations about Fun activities

• I want us to have more fun. I can’t always spend money on fun things. Sometimes I don’t have a lot of time. But I still want us to do something fun every day.

• What do you want to do for fun?What should we do, and when should we do it?

Conversations About Successes

• We’ve had fun every day for a week now! That’s a lot more than before.

• I’m glad we are having more fun together.

• Even though we still get upset sometimes, we are having more fun. Have you noticed that?

• We haven’t figured out how to take turns perfectly, but we are having more fun. I’m happy we are making progress.

• You are getting better at taking turns.

• I really like it when you let me pick the game. It feels good when we take turns. It makes our relationship better.

• We’ve been having fun for a while now. I think it’s going well. How do you feel about it?

• I can tell our relationship is better because I miss our special time when we skip it.

Talking About Being a Teacher and Fun

• As a parent, I need to teach you many things. That’s my job.

• Sometimes, it’s hard to teach because I just want to have fun with you. Do you ever feel that way? Do you wish we could just have fun every day and not do work?

• We’ll have more time for fun if I teach you how to do things on your own.

• I know it’s hard to do what I ask sometimes. Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean I don’t love you. We still have a good relationship, even when I need to teach you to do things that are hard or boring.

I know you, I love you, and I care about you.